Picky Eaters

Over the 25 years I’ve been alive, I’ve met plenty of picky eaters. (And for the record, people with food sensitivities, religious dietary restrictions or those who choose to be vegetarian/vegan don’t count as “picky” for the purposes of this argument.) Also, I'm not including kids right now, because I'm willing to give them some leeway. I find picky eaters’ entire existence to be weird to me, but then again, I don’t consider myself picky. There are three or four things I refuse to eat, but that’s it. After a lot of thought, I’ve come to the conclusion that there are two types of picky eaters: removers and non-removers.

Here’s what I mean- Person A and Person B are both picky, and for the point of this argument, they both dislike the same food, say mushrooms. They both go to a pizza party where all the cheese pizza has been eaten, leaving only mushroom left. Person A will remove the offending topping and eating their now mushroom-less pizza. Person B will sit in the corner and sulk about the fact that there’s no cheese pizza left. Person A is a “remover”, Person B is not. I tend to dislike Person B a lot more.

Don’t get me wrong. People like what they like. Everyone in my family except me likes zucchini; hearing how much they like it doesn’t make me any more inclined to eat it. But I also don’t expect everyone else to accommodate my preferences. If I dish has something I don’t like, I’ll eat around it or get something else. If cheese pizza is the only kind of pizza you’ll eat, and you refuse to remove any toppings you dislike, either ask someone to save you some, or get in line before all the cheese is eaten. It’s not my responsibility to make sure your specific tastes are accounted for.

Thinking about picky eaters, in the above example, got me thinking about picky eaters at restaurants. Having worked in food service before, I’ve got some strong opinions about accommodating people with very particular taste. My philosophy boils down to this: be realistic and don’t make your specific order super disruptive to the person making it. You want a burger, but without lettuce? That’s fine. The burger is made-to-order, they can just not put the lettuce on. You want clam chowder without potatoes in it? Not gonna happen. The chowder’s already been made, the kitchen’s not gonna make a separate soup just for you. It all depends on what you don’t want and are trying to remove. My sister doesn’t like poached eggs, but she loves eggs Benedict; her solution is to order “eggs Benedict without the egg”. She gets weird looks, but its possible to do that. A restaurant probably can’t give you dairy-free fettuccine Alfredo at the drop of a hat. If the ingredient you don’t like can’t easily be substituted out or removed, order something else.

Everyone’s tastes are different. I understand that. But I can’t really understand people who know they don’t like something and refuse to put in a little bit of effort to avoid it.

You HAVE to See This Movie!

It’s a sentence I hear most of the time when someone finds out I haven’t seen a particular movie. I’m told that I absolutely “have” to see this movie. Sometimes the reasoning is just “it’s a classic, how have you not seen it”. Other times, the person acts as if seeing this one movie will completely change my life and I won’t be the same afterwards. Either way, the insistence is the same. I have to see that movie.

Do I though? Do I really? If I’ve survived 25 years having not seen Gone With the Wind how will my life suddenly be different having watched it? If I’m fine having never watched Rain Man, I don’t see how I’ll be a completely different person two hours and thirteen minutes later. I don’t need to watch The Sixth Sense because I knew what the twist was before I was even old enough to watch the movie. Avatar may have, at one point, been the highest-grossing movie of all-time, but I’ve never had the urge to see it.

Now, for the most part I understand the sentiment. The movie in question is a well-known movie and/or one that did well at the box office. Or maybe its just this person’s favorite movie and they want other people to see it to see what they think. My problem isn’t with someone insisting I see a movie. It’s more that, sometimes, it gets hyped up too much, or the reason the person insists I see it doesn’t make sense to me. This kind of falls into two categories: movies I need to see because they’re classics, and movies that were popular.

Let’s talk about classic movies first. Just because a film is a classic doesn’t mean its good. Citizen Kane is considered to be the greatest film of all time, but the story itself isn’t great. A lot of the accolade comes from technical aspects of the film being excellent. The cinematography, the editing, the musical score and plot structure. The plot itself isn’t that great. The only thing most people remember from Citizen Kane is the whole “Rosebud” thing, which I knew about before having watched the film. There are also some cultural or social reasons why I don’t want to see a particular classic film. Plenty haven’t exactly aged well. The Jazz Singer isn’t just a classic film, it made history since it was the first feature film to have full sound. There’s also a lot of blackface happening in the film. I think too many people equate a film being influential with it being good or entertaining. Those aren’t always the same thing.

Also, let me take a brief break and bring up something related to the “it’s a classic argument” that I think people overlook. There are some movies I don’t want to watch because, while they may be classics, I know they’re going to upset me. The premise itself is going to upset me. I don’t necessarily want to watch a movie that I know is going to make me cry my eyes out. Certain topics, even certain time periods, I know the movie’s going to upset me, so I don’t watch it. I don’t care that it’s a classic.

And now, for the other category, films that are popular, so therefore everyone must’ve seen them. Box office sales aren’t necessarily a measure of quality. The Transformers films did well at the box office and they’re 80% explosions with barely any plot. The Saw films made a lot of money, but they don’t have much to offer other than a bunch of fake blood. If you want proof of ticket sales not being proof of quality, look no further than the Fifty Shades films. I rest my case. I want to watch films that tell interesting stories. A film doing well at the box office, or winning awards, doesn’t promise that. There are plenty of Best Picture awards that have been given to boring movies. Or just bad ones.

Look, opinions are relative. If you think a particular movie is amazing, that’s great. Maybe I agree, maybe I don’t because we have different tastes. I’ve met people who hate the entire Marvel Cinematic Universe because they don’t find any of it that interesting. I was once talking to someone who didn’t like Star Wars. There are people out there who’ve never seen, and never wanted to see, Harry Potter. To me, that’s insane, but that’s just me. My point is, I haven’t seen every movie you have, I might not want to see every movie you’ve ever seen. Stop making me feel guilty or weird for not having seen it.

Are there any movies people insist you see that you really don’t want to?

The Dating Chronicles (Part I)

I've decided to document my weird/funny experiences dating these days. The names and any super specific details are being changed for privacy reasons.

So, dating these days isn't exactly easy. No one really meets anyone in person anymore. We meet all potential future partners on through apps and other dating platforms. While this gives a wider array of people to meet than just being introduced to a new person by friends, there are plenty of issues with it. Just look at the existence of MTV's Catfish if you need further explanation. There's the added issue of communicating with someone most likely exclusively through messaging through the dating app, or some other messaging system before meeting them for the first time.

The One Where I Went on A Date With Myself (But More Negative)

I started looking for a new relationship through a website (that also had an app, but its known more as a site than an app). I'd been single for a while, and it seemed like it was at least worth a try. After a few rounds of people turning out to be bots trying to get me to download some app or sign up for some website, and a few rounds of the quintessential "you didn't respond to me as quickly as I wanted, time to text insults and threats at you", I finally matched with someone who was a real person. Let's call this person Andy.

We began talking and realized we had a few things in common. We were both into science and a little nerdy. We messaged for a few weeks before he asked me to dinner. I agreed. The day comes, we meet at the chosen location. We sit down.

He starts talking and I realize...we're basically the same person. 

Andy and I went to the same small college. We had the same major. We took the same classes, with the same professors. The only reason I hadn't met him before this moment was a slight age difference. He was two years older than I was. 

And so, dinner went from "let's get to know each other" to "let's take a very long walk down memory lane" and I was not interested in going there. If I wanted to relive my college days, I'd either 1) got to grad school like everyone keeps telling me or 2)actually pay attention to the emails they keep sending me about alumni events. College wasn't a bad experience for me, it was just done and sitting there, talking about every professor I'd ever had and hearing Andy's opinions about fellow classmates of mine wasn't particularly interesting. It didn't help that most of the people who were mentioned, he didn't have anything nice to say about. If I wanted to spend a few hours listening to someone complain about other people, I could just stay home and watch rant videos.

Anyway, so we went to the same college at the same time. And we have the exact same interests. We dislike similar things. 

And then, he brings up one of two forbidden topics on a first date: politics. Now, don't get me wrong, that's a question you need to ask this day and age, given the political climate, but once we had the "what party do you vote for" conversation, I didn't want to spend twenty minutes listening to him list off all of the ways we're going to die soon because of the current administration, but that's what happened. 

Look, was Andy nice? Yeah, I guess so. But there was no spark, it didn't feel like a real date. I wanted to leave before dinner arrived. First date, you want to make a good impression, but he didn't. When I told other people about this date after the fact, I explained it like this "imagine going on a date with me, but I was more negative". 

Bottom line: I like myself, I like who I am, but I don't wanna date myself. I don't have the patience for that.

Welcome!

Hello!

Welcome to my first ever blog post on the blog I don't really have a plan for. Unlike my book review blog  I'm just going to post whatever I feel like posting on here. This is probably going to be a mess, but its hopefully it'll at least be an amusing mess.